How prêt-à-porter TV platforms (Netflix, Amazon, Sky) are affecting love relationships (and how to handle it).

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The aim of progress is to save time. Time, the scarcest resource ever, the most needed one, the most priceless one. Saving time to have, supposedly, a better life.

Progress has led us to decline life according to a fast-liquid-prêt à porter approach.

So imagine this scene.

Inside. Nigh.

What do you need at the of a frantic-long-exahusting day?

A compensation.

Which shape?

Chocolate? Yes!

Junk food? Ok!

Do what do you want to do? Perfect. Meaning you deserve that episode of your favourite series on your favourite portable platform. You need a bit of monadization process: in there you can choose. Period. You need a bit of relationships reduction just up to a screen. In doing that you are affecting your couple-love-family attitude and life as follows:

1. you choose the easiest thing. Let’s be sincere. Being into a truly relationship needs commitment, fatigue, patience. At the end of the day, you are emptied. So you claim your right not to breath to waste, not to fatigue to be understood: you are in front of your screen.
2. you choose to slide down to narcissism and egotism: I choose what I want to see; I do not need to share. I am the master of my screen. No quarrelling. No drama.
3. after a long day, you are tempted to spare words. You are not so keen on communicating. You are tired. You are ready to protect yourself into your personal shelter. In front of a screen.
4. more than co-sleeping with children, a screen is a deterrent against sane sex. Our body are parting away from each other. The wall we are building, day by day, is invisible but insurmountable. The worst thing? You are getting used to it.

Are you glimpsing anything belonging to you?

So, holding on reading to find the solutions.

1. solution to point 1: choose the hardest thing. Dress on the habit of just embracing each other. Stay in the same room of your partner, observing him, without saying anything, just watch. Give a signal of your presence breathing his presence.
2. solution to point 2: let’s-propose-mood on. You know the taste of your partner. Come closer to him whispering about you two on the couch or in bed watching that series or that film. TOGETHER. That series he likes the most and you hates the most. Or viceversa. No matter who is starting.
3. solution to point 3: just say it. Meaning: “Darling, I do not want to talk, but I need to know about your day”. Simple and clear. Put yourself into a listening-mood.
4. solution to point 4: act as a climber. You do not need an assault. Consider the step-by-step attitude of a climber. So you will start by touching a hand, and still continuing watching your screen. So you will turn and give a whispering kiss. And still continuing watching your screen. So you will….lets’ put at work our imagination!!!!!